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“Recognition of the individual affirms respect for human dignity and the uniqueness of each person” (Charles Colson).
IT’S A DELIGHTFUL THING TO BE A PERSON WHO “RECOGNIZES” OTHER PEOPLE. Contrary to the scarcity mindset of the chronically competitive, acknowledging others and their accomplishments takes nothing away from our own worth. We don’t lose anything by the recognition of those around us; we gain a great deal — almost as much, in fact, as those whom we recognize. “Appreciation is a wonderful thing: it makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well” (Voltaire). To fail to “recognize” others is to diminish ourselves.
Basically, recognition means that we “notice” someone, but when we use the word, we usually mean a favorable notice. When we give recognition, we’re acknowledging that we’re aware of — and appreciate — the good qualities of another person. And shouldn’t it be obvious that this is a good thing to do? As Charles Colson reminds us, recognizing another individual is an affirmation of our “respect for human dignity and the uniqueness of each person.”
Of the many traits possessed by human beings, the need to be appreciated is one of the most universal. Some individuals, of course, allow that need to become obsessive, and their lives turn into a mere quest for approval and praise. They beg for recognition. But even the most emotionally healthy among us need some appreciation. We need to know that there’s at least someone who recognizes our individuality and our efforts to do what is good.
Nowhere is recognition more important than in marriage. Oliver Goldsmith wasn’t overstating the case much when he said, “All that a husband or wife really want is to be pitied a little, praised a little, appreciated a little.” Honoring our mates with recognition is an easy, enjoyable thing to do, but sadly, it’s often neglected.
Whether in marriage, friendship, or the workplace, few things are more motivating than recognition. When specific praise is given to someone in a way that is thoughtfully suited to their situation, good things happen, almost without exception. So let’s recognize one another. Let’s do it thoughtfully. And let’s do it regularly.
“If you want people to understand that you value their contributions and that they are important, the recognition and praise you provide must have meaning that is specific to each individual” (Tom Rath).
Gary Henry – WordPoints.com + AreYouaChristian.com
